Stop postponing the things

Friends in our life we all have a dream to be something, to get something, to do something, to visit somewhere or to have something and we all are aware that we have to do certain things for making our dreams true. We try always to do on time but mostly get postponed, sometimes we know the reason behind and sometimes don’t know but we still regret postponing, this regretting is not a solution. Then the question is how to avoid the postponing which always takes away our happiness by regretting or making late to turning into reality to our dreams.

If you try to find the cause in a relax mind, you will find some certain causes, which are fully responsible. Here are some of them-

  1. Lack of interest
  2. Feeling hard and long to the work
  3. Lack of knowledge
  4. Time management
  5. Insufficient resources
  6. Family interruption
  7. Influencing by the outer world
  8. Sickness

Lack of interest:

All persons around the globe want to do what they love to do, if they got the opportunity to do what they love, then all can work longer until getting tired because interest always inspires to do. Here I would like to memorize that when you were a child you don’t take permission to play because you love that, you would not stop until your parents instruct you not to play, that’s the power of interest. The attraction of work makes no postponing for the work because the force comes from the work, which made this sustainable. That’s why all the motivational speakers say that follow your passion.

But opposite this, if the work is not interesting or you do what you don’t love, in this situation while you do this type of work you would be in the force of result not of the work, when you forget the result our heart starts skipping. you should always mind that you have to do the work only, the result will come automatically after work. So, interest should be in the work, and this is the universal truth “Humans can’t stay in force from the outer world longer by himself” this is the basic cause of unsustainability in work.

In this condition for avoiding postponing, we need to bring an interest in our work. For this we can add some interesting things else, change the way of doing or bring creativity, you can accomplish your uninteresting part with the help of others. If I said in one line “Make your work interesting”.

Feeling hard and long to the work:

This is the human tendency that all want easy and simple things to do, which can be accomplished easily and soon. Opposite this when we got some hard and long work to do, in that situation our heart starts looking an easy way to accomplish, in case of not finding, our heart starts skipping by different skipping things like as mobile phones and laptop, watching the movie, playing the games or gossiping or by doing other work, etc. Same as our goal/result looks far, we would not be able to have patients longer, and we start doing some other works parallelly, because of getting busy the primary work starts being postponed. This is also a major cause of postponing.

As we got the reason “hardness” which is physically nothing, As Mr. Sandeep Maheshwari has said that “Aasan Hai”, it means in reality nothing is hard & tough. Which we love and know how to do that is easy, which we don’t love and don’t know that is hard. Here are a few tips to eradicating the feelings of hardness and longness-

  1. If you are feeling long to the work, in this condition break the work in small part and accomplish one by one, once you complete the 1st one you will feel good and this will encourage you, eventually one by one this long work would be complete easily.
    1. In the case of unknowing the way of doing, 1st we need to learn how to do and don’t look at the whole work break in small part and focus on the smaller one and think about completing it early. Here is an example:

The person who has taken the loan, if he looks at the whole amount, will get afraid of how to pay such a big amount instead he looks at one installment only, which is easy to pay, this way one by one he pays the big amount easily.

  • As I have shared about bring the interest in your work, while you are doing your work concentrate on that only and think about it only (Its benefits, easy way to do, which part can you delegate to other, where you need to take the help, focus on the challenges and its solution) don’t think about other’s interesting work, by doing this you will start taking interest in your work and feeling of hardness will get removed.

Lack of knowledge:

Sometimes we think to do some work, would have full confidence but wouldn’t have a clear idea, our way of doing would not seem clear, sometimes because of this too we start avoiding the work, but bad thing is that we never admit our this lack. This is like “a person is going to a certain place while he doesn’t have a clear idea how to go, he takes a long time to reached destination, instead of this when he has a clear idea of the destination, he reaches early.

Now here it’s clear that less knowledge about the work is also a cause to postponing, so we should have enough knowledge about our work, for that we need do the reading, taking the suggestion from an experienced person, searching on internet, etc.

Time management:

In our ordinary lives, we have so many things to do, and all are important but among those our primary work is most important, in this circumstance we can’t avoid any of them, at this point of time we need to set priority, delegation the work, and learn managing time better. It is not a small thing, So I’ll write a separate note on this.

Insufficient resources:

When we do any work, try to accomplish in very less investment, because this is the human tendency that all of the people want to save the wealth, which results not to have enough resource which is a cause of making work challenging and getting stretch. In some cases, finance also plays the role of resource. Naturally, all of the humans want easy work to do, not challenging when he encounters the challenges he tries to avoid or skip or postpone. So have enough resources for making work easy which leads not to postpone.

Family interruption:

As we all have experienced that there are so many works at our home, and all of us used to do all those while being at home. If you are busy in your work at the same time someone from your family asks you to do something else if you went to accomplished the asking, you will get disturbed and your work will postpone.

In some cases, if someone from your family is doing some things and their work also interrupts you or you are doing something and your work interrupts to your family member and they ask you to do later. This way also interruption comes from family, for this, you need set the prioritize, delegate the work to someone else, you can select a different place or you can consult to your family members and share the importance of your work, don’t try to get angry or force anyone, because this spoils the relations.

Influencing by the outer world:

Self-control is very most important things, you have heard so many motivational speeches that if you control yourself you can do anything instead of this if the outer world controls you is a very difficult condition, in this condition you can’t do anything by yourself, the outer world will govern you, more difficult things is that you can’t be able to understand that outer world is governing you, you will feel I am doing these all by myself. Here is an example-

If you are going to accomplish your work and someone asks you to play cricket you went out to play, you will feel that I went by myself but you want to accomplish your work that’s why you were going to do. Who governed you? Someone asks you to play or not if you would not go to play, your work would be accomplished. And asking by someone is not in your control but going out is in your control.

Here is one more example: Just suppose you are doing some work and something is happening in your community, you went out to watch, but you kept watching, another side your won work stays remained and your time got passed, you will think that you kept watching by yourself but you wanted to complete your work that’s why you were doing. Who governed you?  If you would not keep watching your work would be completed. And anything happening in your community is not in your control but keep watching is in your control.

Now, here is clear that if you went out to play or kept watching you got influence by things from the outer world, it means you are being controlled by the outer world, like this countless skipping things around us, mobile phone, gossiping and discussion, television, etc. This is also a big cause of postponing. In this condition, we need to look at what is important and urgent. When you understood that what is important your vision would be clear what you should do, like this you start governing yourself.

Sickness:

Wellness is the thing which gives comfort to do anything, If you are fit & healthy you will enjoy everything, otherwise, you will not enjoy playing too then it is not possible to do anything, so sickness also a cause of postponing. This is the very common thing which all know that when we are not well our body doesn’t allow us to do anything. So stay healthy do your work and Aage Jao.

अपनी ताकत बनाऐ ,ना कि कमजोरी

इस दुनिया में, सभी लोग अपने विकाश  के लिए काम करते हैं और पूरा प्रयास भी करते हैं, जितना वे कर सकते हैं इतना ही नहीं इसके लिए वे अपने रिस्तेदारों से मदद भी लेते हैं। लेकिन उनमें से अधिकांशतः विकाश दर से संतुष्ट नहीं होते हैं। उन लोगो जो कुछ गलतियाँ मिलती हैं और उसे सही भी करते हैं, कभी-कभी तो कुछ नया तरीका भी लागू करते है लेकिन इन सब के बाद भी जब वे परिणाम को देखते हैं तो वे संतोषजनक परिणाम नहीं होता है। लेकिन कुछ मामलों में, हमने पाया है कि कुछ लोग अपने काम के साथ कोई दुसरा काम भी करते हैं, फिर भी उन्हे संतोषजनक परिणाम मिलता है। ऐसा क्यों?

जब हम अपने काम को गहराई से देखेगें तो पायेगें की जो हम करते हैं, हो सकता है कि यह आनंद के लिए या अतिरिक्त कमाई के लिए या हमारे प्रियजन के लिए हो सकता है, या फिर कोई अच्छे उद्देश्य के लिए हो सकता है। हो सकता प्रारम्भ में यह प्राथमिक कार्य को प्रभावित नहीं कर रहा हो, लेकिन बाद में यह प्रभावित करने लगता है। और इस विश्वास के साथ “यह मेरे प्राथमिक काम को प्रभावित नहीं कर रहा है” कार्य को जारी रखते हैं और हम कभी भी इसकी समीक्षा करने की कोशिश नहीं करते हैं, और अन्ततः असंतोषजनक परिणाम का कारण बन जाता हैं। कभी-कभी मनोरन्जन के उद्देश्य से किया जाने वाला गौड. कार्य आदत में बदल जाता है, और हम चाह कर भी नहीं छोड़ पाते हैं, इस परिस्थिति में यह हमारी कमजोरी बन जाती है। कुछ मामलों में, द्वितीयक कार्य प्राथमिक कार्य को प्रभावित नहीं करते हैं लेकिन यह कार्य आनन्दपूर्ण होने के कारण हम अधिक समय तक कर लेते है, इसलिए हमारे पास पर्याप्त समय नहीं होने के कारण हम प्राथमिक को आवश्यक समय नहीं दे पाते हैं, इन प्रकार के द्वितीयक कार्य प्राथमिक को अप्रत्यक्ष रूप से प्रभावित करते हैं। इसका परिणाम यह होता हैं कि हम अपने कार्य में विशेषज्ञता हासिल नहीं कर पाते हैं, जो अच्छे करियर का निर्माण करती है। जैसा कि मैंने पहले बताया है कि यह आदत में बदल जाता है, यह आदत हमारी कमजोरी बन जाती है, इसलिए हम इससे आगे नहीं जा सकते हैं, दूसरे तरीके से हम कह सकते हैं कि यह हमें नियंत्रित करता है और हमारी सीमा को ठीक करता है। लेकिन मुद्दा यह है कि इस प्रकार की परिस्थितियों से कैसे बचा जाए। तो, यहाँ तरीका है-

मूल्यांकन / समीक्षा वह हथियार है जो हमें अपनी कमजोरी को नियंत्रित करने में मदद करता है। हमें अपने काम की समय-समय पर समीक्षा करनी चाहिए, यह हमें हमारे लागू प्रयासों के अनुसार परिणाम देने में मदद करता है। अपने काम की समीक्षा नहीं करने के मामले में, हम इसके परिणाम, निवेश, लागू किए गए प्रयासों, इसके लाभ और नुकसान और इसके दुष्प्रभावों को अच्छे या बुरे के बारे में नहीं जान सके। साइड इफेक्ट्स को अनजाने करने के मामले में, यदि हम प्राथमिक को प्रभावित करते हैं तो हम इसे नियंत्रित नहीं कर सकते। इसलिए समय-समय पर हमें अपने काम की समीक्षा / आकलन करना चाहिए कि हम क्या कर रहे हैं। यदि हम समय पर कमजोरी को नियंत्रित करते हैं, तो हमारा प्राथमिक काम हमेशा प्राथमिक रहता है और हम इस पर ठीक से ध्यान केंद्रित करने में सक्षम हो सकते हैं।

इसके बजाय, यदि हमारा द्वितीयक कार्य इस मामले में प्राथमिक मदद करता है तो यह वृद्धि को समाप्त कर देगा। कभी-कभी इस स्थिति में प्राथमिक करने के लिए यह माध्यमिक बल प्राथमिक कार्य का पूरक बन जाता है। इस मामले में, हमें हमेशा यह सोचना चाहिए कि माध्यमिक का उद्देश्य क्या है? यदि उद्देश्य प्राथमिक को बढ़ावा देना है तो जब तक आप कर सकते हैं तब करें लेकिन यदि उद्देश्य अलग है, तो हमें माध्यमिक का आकलन / समीक्षा करने की आवश्यकता है क्योंकि एक सीमा तक यह अन्यथा कमजोरी बन जाती है। इसलिए हमें द्वितीयक कार्य को अपनी ताकत बनाना होगा। ताकत हमेशा हमारी सीमा को बढ़ाती है, इसलिए हम परे जाने में सक्षम हो सकते हैं, दूसरे शब्दों में, ताकत हमेशा हमें स्वतंत्र बनाती है और हमारे लिए रास्ते खोलती है।

निष्कर्ष: इसे पढ़ने के बाद यह स्पष्ट हो रहा है कि हम अपने प्राथमिक से अलग जो कुछ भी कर रहे हैं वह हमारी ताकत या कमजोरी हो सकती है यदि हम अपनी ताकत बनाते हैं जो हमेशा बढ़ने के लिए हमारा समर्थन करती है, इसके बजाय जब हम अपनी कमजोरी बनाते हैं, जो हमेशा हमें वापस खींचती है । इसलिए अपनी ताकत को हमेशा कमजोरी न बनाएं।